Casual Sex – A Friends With Benefits Story

Having Casual Sex, or one night stand as the case may be can brighten up your day and put a smile on your face. This is particularly true for persons that are experiencing a bit of a drought or you are in between relationships.

The growing evidence that having a friends with benefits type of arrangement or just a fling can leave both parties feeling super excited. This claim has been substantiated by several studies with popular sex and relationship expert, Chantelle Austin supporting the notion. FWB [scenarios] allow busy individuals to have their sexual needs met. Or a companion where needed, without having the time commitment of building and maintaining a healthy relationship, says Chantelle Austin.

One of the most exciting parts of casual sex and having an f-buddy is the fact that no emotions are involved This can leave both parties feeling great and excited. However, this does not take away the position of love in a relationship or talking bad about the big L.  It only helps to reiterate the fact that finding and keeping can be a daunting task.

A Relationship Is Hard Work – FWB Does Not Have To Be

Making a relationship work is a difficult task, to say the least as parties involved have to sacrifice their emotions, time, and finances to ensure they are happy. It gets even worse when the relationship fails or is short of the happily-ever-after fantasy most people dream of.  Leaving both parties feeling used and messed up.

On the other side of the situation is a no-strings-attached relationship where there is a better chance of both parties leaving each other feeling cheerful even after an eventful time.

“Friendship with benefits is a kind of romantic compromise in which the agent gives up romantic love,”

says Aaron Ben-Zeév, a professor of philosophy and expert in relationship issues. Fortunately, people get to a particular stage life where the only thing they need is a romantic relationship that is free of any emotional attachment. Casual sex is also great for persons that are not ready to get married as it allows them to have sex without being tied to a particular individual.

“Another perk is being able to have more than one friend with benefits for added spice and variety, and back-ups, if one isn’t available when you need them,”

says Chantelle Austin. Another amazing thing about casual sex comes from the popular saying that variety is the spice of life. Having sex with a particular person over and over again can be somewhat boring. This is so as it becomes difficult to keep the attraction and spice and attraction.

Some experts have even gone ahead to start that man did not evolve to be monogamous in nature. However, this does not take away the place and importance of marriage in the society. No one should actually give up on settling down and sticking to a partner. It only means that you can enjoy yourself and have short-term lovers while you are single.

In the words of Chantelle Austin,

“Multiple short-term casual relationships can keep a feeling of romance and initial fire ongoing, as one loses its spark, a new one can be started. The downside, never getting into the deep love connection but then, you have to go through a few false starts until you find that life-partner in crime.”

Besides the feel-good hormones that bounce around after orgasm, sex buddies are also great for filling your sexual needs created by a broken relationship at least before you meet your next love. This also helps to avoid jumping on the next possible potential relationship that might eventually leave you heartbroken.

“Friends with benefits can fill the sexual and companion needs in between long-term relationships and give people opportunities to become better lovers and better partners by learning and making mistakes with their casual flings,”

says sexpert, Austin.

All in all, one of the major fun parts of casual sex is the lack of control of one party over the other. This point is clearly stated in Austin’s words where she noted that

“Having friends with benefits often has a much more casual feeling to it and therefore neither one owns the other or has much of a say over how the other lives, whom they see and what they do, allowing for the freedom to be and do what they want and enjoy the sex and company when they choose. For people who can create relationships with a similar freedom structure, they thrive too.”

Casual sex is great but only for the well-prepared ones, as women are often victims of letting their emotions get the better of them. Therefore, it is advised that anyone entering such a relationship should throw his or her emotions out the window for the time being.

What Real Women Really Think About Being Submissive

For a strong woman living an independent life in the 21^st century, feminism is usually a big deal. Men who get off on being dominated by women dressed in leather and holding a whip are seen as men who’ve found an excellent way to release some of the stress built up inside their body.

But what about the women who like to submit to their partners for sexual pleasure?

Are they seen as weak and dependant?

To most people, being a feminist means standing up for yourself and not letting a man tell you what to do.

But could sexual submission and feminism actually go hand in hand?

According to the ladies who like being on the receiving end of a little D/s play, submission is all about being pleased without having to be in control. Submissive women dating comes down to using her surrender to turn her on and blowing her mind while finding pleasure in her pleasure, and below we discuss this in more detail.

They’re No Push-Overs

Women who enjoy submitting themselves to their partners’ command agree that being a sub in the bedroom doesn’t mean being a push-over in life. Being a sub is about being overly compliant, but in no way does it mean being lazy or unwilling to take a more active role during sex.

Most of the women who take on the submissive role in the bedroom are very controlling in life. They hold positions of power and deal with lots of pressure at work. Some of them are even perceived as intimidating by their peers. Nobody looks after them, and when they come home and want to unwind they want something different. They want to be taken care of.

In the privacy of their homes and bedrooms, they don’t want to be the ones to make all the decisions and they certainly don’t want any of the responsibility anymore. They need a break from taking care of everyone and just want to surrender to their partners, knowing that they’ll be given what they want if they do what they’re told.

It’s Not Just Whips and Chains

Not every Sub enjoys direct control. Being tied up with a blindfold on is just one of the options as there are plenty of ladies out there who like to be restrained with words or just a glance. Some of them don’t like to comply right away and enjoy a little power struggle with their partners. They won’t do something the first time they’re told as they want to push their partners to the limit and make them be truly persuasive Doms.

For a D/s relationship to really work, there has to be a high level of trust and communication between the people involved. Women who like to be submissive say they are turned on by their men patronizing them in the bedroom. They would never tolerate being pushed over in the same way by their partners in any other setting. Also, these women would never be happy if their partners dominated them, told them what to do, and then not satisfy their sexual needs because no good D/s relationship is ever one-sided.

It Strengthens the Bond

Couples who practice these kinds of D/s activities in the bedroom couldn’t really be equal partners outside of it, right? Well, wrong. So many of these couples balance this against how they feel about each other the rest of the time and in no way is anyone ever treated like a doormat.

Women who are submissive in the bedroom don’t suffer from lack of self-confidence in real life, and just because they like a little BDSM doesn’t mean they do it every time they have sex. They make special dates for a little D/s, and enjoy being ‘used and abused’ on occasion as a way to release everyday stress.

Women who submit to their partners sexually are usually very strong and very trusting, and they know that if their partners really enjoy dominating them, this submission would only deepen their connection and their relationship.

Being A Sub Does Not Mean Feeling Lesser

To them, being a sub is empowering and they don’t feel lesser because of it. They feel very sexy and turned on, plus if it’s a secret and nobody knows they’re into it, it makes them feel naughty in a very good way. What’s more, these women are often feminists, and the D/s play in no way diminishes that. The most important thing is to use the sub’s submission to turn her on and please her.

It’s also important that each partner can openly communicate their desires without fear of judgment or rejection. Rejection is usually something that rarely happens because these couples trust each other to a point that pretty much everything is on the table, provided they talk about it first.

Finally, some women think that submission doesn’t do it for them because they’re inferior. Instead, it’s such a great turn-on because they’re thrill seekers. They love just letting go, not being in control or having to make any decisions, and just being able to enjoy the sensations and experiences. They compare their D/s play to a roller coaster ride.

If they were in charge of the ride they wouldn’t be able to enjoy it as much as the passengers.